Comments for Someday Melissa http://www.somedaymelissa.com The story of an eating disorder, loss and hope Mon, 20 Feb 2012 00:41:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on The Team by February 21 | Someday Melissa http://www.somedaymelissa.com/about/the-team/#comment-44 February 21 | Someday Melissa Mon, 20 Feb 2012 00:41:57 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?page_id=65#comment-44 [...] 21, 2012 – 6:30 PM Temple Dor Dorim 2360 Glades Circle Weston, FL Screening and Q&A with Danna Markson Open to the public For more information please click here. To RSVP or for additional information, [...] [...] 21, 2012 – 6:30 PM Temple Dor Dorim 2360 Glades Circle Weston, FL Screening and Q&A with Danna Markson Open to the public For more information please click here. To RSVP or for additional information, [...]

]]> Comment on The Power of Parental Denial by Thankful Mom http://www.somedaymelissa.com/2012/01/the-power-of-parental-denial/#comment-43 Thankful Mom Sat, 18 Feb 2012 23:41:00 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?p=560#comment-43 I can't thank you enough for sharing Melissa's story and helping other children to be safe. I will be praying for peace in your heart. I have a son who just turned 12. For about four years, we've been watching his weight gradually rise in proportion to his height, while increasing family activities, revving up the talk about healthy eating, cooking lighter, trying extra hard to model good behaviors...and feeling helpless and sad about our boy. His siblings are normal weight and much more inclined to be active. (We have never had a TV, so this is not the problem.) Anyway, during the last months before turning 12, and now for the past few weeks since his birthday, he's been taking control of activity and eating for himself. He saves his bread for last at dinner and skips it if he's not hungry after eating all the other food plus a big glass of water. This is a healthy habit. He sets his clock for 6AM to exercise on the elliptical (taking turns with Dad). Healthy habit. He walks the dog daily. Healthy. But... I am so worried for him, as he tries to grow up and be strong. Thanks to you and others I've tuned in to the possibility of an eating disorder. So far, so good. But we are going to be vigilant. I can’t thank you enough for sharing Melissa’s story and helping other children to be safe. I will be praying for peace in your heart. I have a son who just turned 12. For about four years, we’ve been watching his weight gradually rise in proportion to his height, while increasing family activities, revving up the talk about healthy eating, cooking lighter, trying extra hard to model good behaviors…and feeling helpless and sad about our boy. His siblings are normal weight and much more inclined to be active. (We have never had a TV, so this is not the problem.) Anyway, during the last months before turning 12, and now for the past few weeks since his birthday, he’s been taking control of activity and eating for himself. He saves his bread for last at dinner and skips it if he’s not hungry after eating all the other food plus a big glass of water. This is a healthy habit. He sets his clock for 6AM to exercise on the elliptical (taking turns with Dad). Healthy habit. He walks the dog daily. Healthy. But… I am so worried for him, as he tries to grow up and be strong. Thanks to you and others I’ve tuned in to the possibility of an eating disorder. So far, so good. But we are going to be vigilant.

]]> Comment on The Power of Parental Denial by Judyb18 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/2012/01/the-power-of-parental-denial/#comment-42 Judyb18 Tue, 14 Feb 2012 18:46:00 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?p=560#comment-42 How sad for the loss of your child. As a former anorexic and bulimic(17-40), I can tell you that parental blame does not help.Control over one's life in adolescence is difficult. The bulimic believes that he or she can stop until the disease starts controling you. Pehaps the best thing that can be done for people that are entrenched in the disease is to speak with those that are recovered so that the long term physical effects can be shown. Kep up your good work. another Judy How sad for the loss of your child. As a former anorexic and bulimic(17-40), I can tell you that parental blame does not help.Control over one’s life in adolescence is difficult. The bulimic believes that he or she can stop until the disease starts controling you.
Pehaps the best thing that can be done for people that are entrenched in the disease is to speak with those that are recovered so that the long term physical effects can be shown.
Kep up your good work.
another Judy

]]> Comment on One Step by Judy Avrin http://www.somedaymelissa.com/2011/11/one-step/#comment-38 Judy Avrin Mon, 16 Jan 2012 18:51:00 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?p=378#comment-38 Robin, Thank you so much for your kind words. Knowing that Melissa's story and my ability to share it is inspiring others helps give some meaning to losing her. I was so glad you reached out to me. When you're dealing with your child's eating disorder, it feels like you're living in the Twilight Zone most of the time. It becomes all consuming and so often isolating as you pull away from friends, much like your child is. The impact on the entire family is so significant that you can't believe anyone else has been down the same road. I hope I was able to help just a bit. Hugs, Judy Robin,
Thank you so much for your kind words. Knowing that Melissa’s story and my ability to share it is inspiring others helps give some meaning to losing her.

I was so glad you reached out to me. When you’re dealing with your child’s eating disorder, it feels like you’re living in the Twilight Zone most of the time. It becomes all consuming and so often isolating as you pull away from friends, much like your child is. The impact on the entire family is so significant that you can’t believe anyone else has been down the same road. I hope I was able to help just a bit.

Hugs, Judy

]]> Comment on One Step by Robin http://www.somedaymelissa.com/2011/11/one-step/#comment-37 Robin Mon, 16 Jan 2012 12:35:00 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?p=378#comment-37 After checking out the Someday Melissa site and reading the blog i was deeply moved...of course i immediately ordered the dvd...I saw a phone number for Judy and decided to try and call...to my suprise she picked up and we spoke for a while...she and I had many similarities...we both struggled ourselves with eating disorders and our children went down the same path...my daughter is still struggling daily after countless therapists, treatment centers & hospitalizations...this disease is all consuming and every day is a battle...i feel that by Judy making this movie she has given the world a powerful tool which was much needed...to quote my daughter "sometimes it takes one persons eyes to close for hundreds to open"...congrats to Judy for having the courage and strength to put her story out there...Melissa's movie is changing lives... After checking out the Someday Melissa site and reading the blog i was deeply moved…of course i immediately ordered the dvd…I saw a phone number for Judy and decided to try and call…to my suprise she picked up and we spoke for a while…she and I had many similarities…we both struggled ourselves with eating disorders and our children went down the same path…my daughter is still struggling daily after countless therapists, treatment centers & hospitalizations…this disease is all consuming and every day is a battle…i feel that by Judy making this movie she has given the world a powerful tool which was much needed…to quote my daughter “sometimes it takes one persons eyes to close for hundreds to open”…congrats to Judy for having the courage and strength to put her story out there…Melissa’s movie is changing lives…

]]> Comment on The Organization by Parents can be the key to early intervention in eating disorder development - Kate Daigle Counseling http://www.somedaymelissa.com/about/the-organization/#comment-36 Parents can be the key to early intervention in eating disorder development - Kate Daigle Counseling Wed, 11 Jan 2012 18:38:47 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?page_id=55#comment-36 [...] Someday Melissa is a non-profit organization founded in 2010 by Judy Avrin following the death of her daughter Melissa to an eating disorder.  Someday Melissa’s mission is “to promote recognition and awareness of eating disorders and the importance of early treatment”, and the organization created a documentary about Melissa’s journey in order to raise awareness about the dangers of these disorders.  The goal “is to show the film, speak to groups, provide educational materials and have a vital website and blog that are continually updated with information and resources; to share stories of recovery and hope.” [...] [...] Someday Melissa is a non-profit organization founded in 2010 by Judy Avrin following the death of her daughter Melissa to an eating disorder.  Someday Melissa’s mission is “to promote recognition and awareness of eating disorders and the importance of early treatment”, and the organization created a documentary about Melissa’s journey in order to raise awareness about the dangers of these disorders.  The goal “is to show the film, speak to groups, provide educational materials and have a vital website and blog that are continually updated with information and resources; to share stories of recovery and hope.” [...]

]]> Comment on Guestbook by Thinking About Body Images and “Someday Melissa” | Van Wallach's Blog http://www.somedaymelissa.com/guestbook/#comment-32 Thinking About Body Images and “Someday Melissa” | Van Wallach's Blog Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:38:32 +0000 http://66.147.255.22/?page_id=20#comment-32 [...] has had an impact, judging from the hundreds of comments posted on the site’s guestbook about viewers’ responses to it. I can only hope that Judy Avrin’s response to her great loss leads to comfort and [...] [...] has had an impact, judging from the hundreds of comments posted on the site’s guestbook about viewers’ responses to it. I can only hope that Judy Avrin’s response to her great loss leads to comfort and [...]

]]> Comment on New Someday Melissa Website launches by Connie http://www.somedaymelissa.com/2011/08/new-someday-melissa-website-launches/#comment-31 Connie Wed, 21 Dec 2011 15:33:00 +0000 http://66.147.255.22/?p=34#comment-31 Dear Judy, this morning I was uncharacteristically drawn to the obituary section of the Bergen Record and immediately laid my eyes on a beautiful picture of your daughter Melissa. Melissa was born just weeks after one of my own children so her memorial struck a deep heartstring for me. I write to say how sorry I am that you have lost this young woman who was your daughter and to tell you that you should know, from mother to mother, your sadness is acknowledged and felt. How wonderful that you have presevered and Melissa's story is out there and a "someday" has come to pass. Dear Judy, this morning I was uncharacteristically drawn to the obituary section of the Bergen Record and immediately laid my eyes on a beautiful picture of your daughter Melissa. Melissa was born just weeks after one of my own children so her memorial struck a deep heartstring for me. I write to say how sorry I am that you have lost this young woman who was your daughter and to tell you that you should know, from mother to mother, your sadness is acknowledged and felt. How wonderful that you have presevered and Melissa’s story is out there and a “someday” has come to pass.

]]> Comment on Eating Disorders, Anxiety and Depression: More Common Than You Think by Lindsay Ensor http://www.somedaymelissa.com/2011/12/edanxietydepression/#comment-30 Lindsay Ensor Wed, 14 Dec 2011 21:17:00 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?p=536#comment-30 Love this! Great article. I'm an advocate for breaking the stigma!!! Love this! Great article. I’m an advocate for breaking the stigma!!!

]]> Comment on Dreams and Friendship by Melissa http://www.somedaymelissa.com/2011/11/487/#comment-27 Melissa Sun, 27 Nov 2011 20:38:00 +0000 http://www.somedaymelissa.com/?p=487#comment-27 Im speechless now! Such kind and honest words Judy. Thank you <3 Im speechless now! Such kind and honest words Judy. Thank you <3

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